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It totally amazes me that there are some people on this great
earth and no doubt other creatures in this boundless universe we
exist in that simply cannot utter a simple, and quite short, word.
I don't know about the rest of you, but for me it was one of
the first words I mastered; well, besides googoo, but that started to sound a
tad juvenile and not decisive enough even with feeble attempts at voice
inflections. Coincidental or not, it was the first word uttered by
an ape in one of those planet of the ape movies when they were the slaves.
Yeah, you remember, and he was justified at that!
Needless, or maybe needed actually, to say.................
that word is NO. Come on and say it with me, I know you can.
So, are you gonna put yourself through another friend of
cousin's stepson's girlfriends grandmothers 95th birthday party because
someone asked you to serve the cake? And do you offer to bake the
cake too?
A simple definition of your behavior could be insanity, but I
think there's another word for it: pushover.
I'm sure linguists can come up with more colorful terms for it,
but suffice it to say, you need help!
The main thing pushovers forget is that sometimes you don't
even have to say anything. The most important part of saying no is
body language and facial expressions anyway. Nobody listens to the word
no; it's programmed in their minds that you are gonna say yes anyway.
After all, how could you not pass up the opportunity the lick a couple of
hundred envelopes to mail out flyers about something you have no idea is
about. I bet you pay the postage too.
It's probably good for starters to have a backup excuse why you
can't participate, but once you get more comfortable with it, you won't need
them.
Here's an example of how facial expression and body language
precludes the necessity to actually vocalize the expression.
Pay particular attention to the sneer. I have to admit
its a natural talent for me, but, no worries, it can be learned.
It's very effective though and definitely conveys a negative response with an
underlying tone of "don't even think of asking again."
Another important thing to remember is hold your stance
and your stare.
Quietly explain that you think you need your ears checked out,
cuz you thought they just asked you to call bingo numbers at the Save the
Fruitfly Orphans bash. Don't feel honored, and don't let them make
you feel that way.
Oh wait, that's how to say yes............ ummmm
nevermind; how the heck did that get in there?
Ok back on topic.
A very effective way to say no without saying it out loud is
with sign language. You can actually smile using this one and not
look so intimidating, but the meaning comes across very clear.
Suffice it to say, whether you utter, sign, pose or otherwise
convey the word no, it can be very effective to get out of mundane attendances
at various functions.
JUST SAY NO!
(well not to fun stuff)
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